Even though I am consciously making an effort to not curse or scold anyone from the workplace, I cannot help but do some word play on the situation there. A more amicable colleague SH always remarks half-jokingly "Oh, that enemy of yours is it?" or "Which enemy is it this time?", whenever he spots the frustrated look I have due to work disputes. Whether or not those parties define me as deserving to be classified as "enemy" is solely under their control. What I'll like to examine is the correlation, or lack of between the concept of "enemy" and "reason". Ok, this topic is kind of difficult to digest, so I'll state the defintion of both concepts below from dictionary.com.
en·e·my (noun)
en·e·my (noun)
a person who feels hatred for, fosters harmful designs against, or engages in antagonistic activities against another; an adversary or opponent.
rea-son (noun)
rea-son (noun)
1. a basis or cause, as for some belief, action, fact, event, etc.
2. a statement presented in justification or explanation of a belief or action.
3. the mental powers concerned with forming conclusions, judgments, or inferences.
4. sound judgment; good sense.
5. normal or sound powers of mind; sanity.
As we can see from the definition of those two terms, they do not necessarily bear correlation towards each other. The term "enemy" focuses on the hatred, antagonism and adversity between the two parties. Meanwhile the term "reason" delves into the soundness, justisfication, basis and sanity of the relationship between the two parties and the situation.
This is the beginning of my 4th season at this workplace and reflecting on what has happened so far, I am unable to draw strong correlation between those two terms. If indeed as my colleague says, my relationships with those parties in question are indeed worthy to be classified as that of enemies, then the criteria seems to be a very hollow one. For two of them, I have offended through lack of tact, thus there is indeed a very strong and obvious basis for their hostility towards me. However, there have been a few others whose rationale for their eventual actions pertaining to me, I am completely clueless about.
In an earlier entry, I've already touched on how reciprocation versus freewill influences our mindset and treatment of others. Same here, as the treatment of hostility towards others is that of enemies. Everyone has the freewill to decide how much basis, ground, justification they require, in order to classify others who treat them in a certain way as enemies. I have not yet found enough of these requirements for any of them, as I find the task of keeping track of these extremely energy consuming, and the duty of maintenance of the hostility even more so tedious. 如果彼此不和已经那么累人，更何况是仇视地对待...
As we can see from the definition of those two terms, they do not necessarily bear correlation towards each other. The term "enemy" focuses on the hatred, antagonism and adversity between the two parties. Meanwhile the term "reason" delves into the soundness, justisfication, basis and sanity of the relationship between the two parties and the situation.
This is the beginning of my 4th season at this workplace and reflecting on what has happened so far, I am unable to draw strong correlation between those two terms. If indeed as my colleague says, my relationships with those parties in question are indeed worthy to be classified as that of enemies, then the criteria seems to be a very hollow one. For two of them, I have offended through lack of tact, thus there is indeed a very strong and obvious basis for their hostility towards me. However, there have been a few others whose rationale for their eventual actions pertaining to me, I am completely clueless about.
In an earlier entry, I've already touched on how reciprocation versus freewill influences our mindset and treatment of others. Same here, as the treatment of hostility towards others is that of enemies. Everyone has the freewill to decide how much basis, ground, justification they require, in order to classify others who treat them in a certain way as enemies. I have not yet found enough of these requirements for any of them, as I find the task of keeping track of these extremely energy consuming, and the duty of maintenance of the hostility even more so tedious. 如果彼此不和已经那么累人，更何况是仇视地对待...
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